I think I know what I need to do now
Ideally the feed to the regulator should be 0v whan I want the alternator ro be producing no output.
I think it may be gatting some excitition from elsewhere i.e. picking up RF and then this voltage/current acts as the power to get the coils energised.
I need to ground the input to the regulator when not in use i.e. ground the yellow wire.
I think a relay that is grounded on the NC side and then fed the field voltage/idiot light voltage when activated should do the trick. So when not in use the alternator field windings are not fed any voltage and cannot 'pick up' any voltage!!