Beginning with #1 - to make the ECU think the car is coasting we need to feed a false vehicle speed signal to the ecu. The signal is a pulse type wave or half of a square wave. Here is a variable frequency and variable duty cycle square wave generator with a diode in line to block half of the wave. Now a 12v+ pulse signal can be sent to the ecu.
EDIT - This particular wave generator isn't really a full wave it's a half wave already, I didn't realize this until I saw it on the oscilloscope. There is no need for a diode.