http://www.nycourts.gov/courthelp/pd...msHandbook.pdf
you will have to change the venue to a civil court if you wish the judge to take non-monetary action. If she just wants to return the car and you are ok with that, then it is a matter of usage/insurance.
If you want her to keep it, then you have to have the court compel further action (non-monetary, take legal possession of title/etc).
I hope you talked to your lawyer in any event.