Sorry to hear about the commute. I've had longer commutes, but 60 miles wow... IMO its not worth it and I'd start looking for a new job even if you take a pay cut. Forget gas mileage and money, its the time alone wasted just sitting in a car 2+ hours a day you can never get back. Those are my personal feelings at least!
Definitely look at some aeromods to help with the high speed penalty. Different commute calls for different mods!