[oil pan 4]

I have taken apart engines that have sat in barns or shops for 20 years and they still had oil up in them.
So "the oil draining out of the upper parts of the engine" when it sits for a minute or 2 is an old wives tail.

Wearing out the stater sooner is also arm chair mechanicing. When I was in the air force we had a pretty dumb set of rules that caused flightline vehicles to be stopped and started about 100 times a day for 5 to 7 days per week. Doing this cut the starter life by maybe 1/3 of what you would expect the average consumers vehicle.
So 5 or 10 more starts per day isn't going to do anything.
Time is what seems to kill them.

There is no way people who actually work on vehicles or engines come up with this garbage.