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Originally Posted by Xist
Mom keeps saying she is leaving my brother and I the house.
I keep asking her to make it official.
I am not trying to get a free house.
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Final wishes do need to be spelled out, and avoiding it often places undue burden on others, because the future always catches up to us.
Having a plan that doesn't rely on others is best. A plan that produces an abundance that passes on to others is even better.
I'm telling my kids they get nothing, to motivate them to pursue their life, but I'll pass something along to them. While we all start life as absolute narcissistic dependents, the entire process of maturing is to gain independence which enables one to be concerned with matters outside oneself. It's a balance of both means and mentality. Someone with high awareness of the needs of others and no means is severely constrained in their usefulness, and those with abundance but low concern for others needs is nearly equally useless.
Finally, wisdom is required to discern between what is truly helpful, and that which are shackles in disguise as a gift.