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Originally Posted by Isaac Zachary
I do not like to try to interpret a person's motives. Maybe because I'm not good at it, but also because I hate it when people do it to me. If what someone says cannot be proven it may or may not be true. Not that I doubt everything, but I generally take what other people say and hope that it's true but prepare for if it isn't. If the risk is too great I don't take it, no matter how much the person seems honest.
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I'm probably somewhere towards the abnormal end of "the spectrum", and as such, I'm the one that takes everything at face value and doesn't get it when a stranger is joking with me, or interprets something said in earnest as a joke.
That said, for me, it's fairly easy to tell who has an operating system of honesty, and who is deceitful. My "spectrum" nature has me asking blunt questions, which puts people on the spot unexpectedly, which reveals something about their character.
I've got an advantage that I spent a year in prison at an early age; an environment of deceit, and did a lot of observation.
Jude Judy is the best decipherer of honesty there is, which is the allure of her program. Her rapid-fire questions and "um isn't an answer" remarks aren't simply because she's an old curmudgeon; it's the method of determining honesty. Someone speaking honestly doesn't have to think about what the answer is. Deceit is way harder because you have to fabricate an alternate story and figure out if it would pass interrogation.
I'm not saying you grill someone in the tone of Judge Judy, but if you ask a series of questions with genuine interest, you'll discover the character of a person in 5 minutes.