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Originally Posted by Isaac Zachary
I work with a few children and young adults that have had a poor upbringing (orphaned, beaten, raped, etc.) that, as a result, almost always have the tendancy to lie through their teeth at every opportunity, since that's what they had to do in order to survive in their younger years. The problem now is that if you take everything they say as a lie you condemn them to a life of a liar.
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Great points. I'm not the nurturing personality type; but the boundary enforcement type, so those perspectives often escape my awareness.
In my conceptual hierarchy, the need to immediately stop anti-social behavior supersedes the need to rehabilitate. When the murderous gunman has guns blazing, stopping that is by far the 1st priority. Integrating the individual into society is the optional luxury that wealthy societies can afford.
Seeing the patterns that lead to disfunction is absolutely important. Understanding how things went wrong is crucial. Fixing the things that went wrong is insanely difficult (my personality type chose the easier problem). Fundamentally changing behavior and values is the most difficult thing in the world, and the earlier the intervention, the slightly easier it is.
My forced intervention came at 18, and the only reason it was a positive experience is my inquisitive nature. If I wasn't always asking "why", then I'd be trying to climb the hierarchy of deceit.
Further than that, a person has to accept that truth exists, and that it will win the day. Those who don't recognize that are lost forever. Any investment into one who rejects truth as a concept is utterly futile.