To [TLDR:] The eight-circuit brain theory of Timothy Leary has four terrestrial circuits. They can be cartooned as infant, family, tribe and nation-state. Literal synaptic circuits.
It's the hardest thing for an adult to 'throttle back' and communicate on a level that excludes politics (& sex). But if you do, then "Group-ups always say the weirdest sh-tuff" goes away and comms can happen.
One for the tickler file: kids can beat grow-ups at pattern-matching games up until the age of maybe four. So if you want to build confidence and competitivness, try
pattern matching games.