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Originally Posted by freebeard
I started letting go when my son entered first grade.
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Was that the split?
I'm ideologically similar to Jonathan Haidt with regards to child rearing. Bend, don't break. Peterson's "don't do for anyone what they can do for themselves". When you do for children, they learn helplessness. When you do for the elderly (or otherwise diminishing function), you accelerate the decline.
It's painful for me to watch my children struggle through a common process, but my duty is to produce capable people, not needy dependents. The mindset is 'how do we accomplish', not 'how do we extract from others accomplishment'.