I agree; it seems you have to choose between good looks and good aero often.
I like the top photos for looks, and, let's face it, wheels aren't that big of an aero issue for cars.
I would steer clear of photo #3 - the black/polished rim - I don't like that look on your car at all.
If you go with the steelies, you get a little more unsprung weight..
but you can get them for probably $100 less and you can customize your covers to your liking and aero optimization.
I'd either get the prettiest looking rims or the steelies, rather than compromizing looks and aero in the middle and still paying $$ for it.
Good luck in your search!