1. I am not a marriage counselor or a divorce attorney.
2. to loving husband: you have a great partner who would jump on a Macho site like this and ask for advise. (not gonna see me on housecleaning.com to ask about which vaccuum is the best!!!!)
lol
Very few automatic will shift all the way down into 1st gear because THAT will ruin the transmission.
If you try to it will only go down to the next gear. You shouldn't try to down shift to first to slow the car unless it is an emergency and your already standing on the brakes.
That method is know as engine braking because your asking the friction of the engine and the transmission to slow the car. not healthy.
How many miles are on the cars?
how cold is 'cold'? in Sacramento Ca cold is abouit 40 degrees! lol
Have the transmission been serviced reularly (according to the owner's manual)
BSET of Luck!!!!!!!
(and I really do admire you for jumping on and asking)