#1 is the correct way to do things. If its not starting, the only thing I can think of is that you need to let the cutch out a tiny bit more to spin the engine up a little faster.
Better than your #2 way of starting? Mostly because its easier and can be done with less distraction from driving. But, by just brushing the clutch against the flywheel, and then rev matching, you have less clutch wear too.
Okay thanks. I will play around with it again and see if I can get it working better. I am keeping it in high gear not going super fast so the rev match point isn't all that far above idle anyway, but I will shoot for optimal.