Reflections upon being “nice” and being banned

[mcrews]

To those who run this list I suggest that you reconsider the arbitrary policy of banning and silencing members based upon a lack of “niceness” as it is fundamentally untenable. The command to “be nice” may be effective with gullible young children who are easily cowed and intimidated. But if you continue the attempted intimidation of adults, treating them as if they were children, it will have consequences.

there is a perfect example of a grumpy ol man.
THe magic was lost. the trick to writing all the time is to 'try' to catch the social ques that everyone is rolling their eyes at you. That is what gets us to hold out tongue in public.

[Slimshade73]

It is a delicate balance between human civility and normal no BS talk. I live in the foreign country of Texas where ignorance rules. It is a very hard task to bite ones tongue when someone is totally not understanding why you take a 45mpg car everywhere that does everything you need to drop your kids off at school when a deer "could" hit the car because you drive like an ass and not pay attention! Sorry for the rant from a newbie but I need to post so that I can share pict and stuff on my sweet, sweet Toyota Echo.....The Dude

[mcrews]

then move to California.......or see a shrink.
I could give 10 reasons why Texas is a great place, but why bother.
The sad part is your lack of awareness. And your ability to adapt and grow.

That is what your are lacking. Not what Texas is lacking.
Introspection is a valuable skill.

(ps. I'm probably the worst.....but at least I am aware)

[cRiPpLe_rOoStEr]

Sometimes an apparently-unoffensive quote can be misunderstood, among other little things that make it quite hard to the moderators, and sure there are also a few trolls always around, coming not to add anything positive but just to set fire to the circus as we say in Brazil. Since I'm not exactly an example of patience to mediate such conflicts, I don't believe I'd ever be a good moderator to any forum. At least for me, altough it's extremely subjective, it doesn't sound really complicated to "be nice", but often there are the ones who like to play the victim card when there is an objection to what they say, even if it's actually a positive feedback.

Originally Posted by mcrews

I could give 10 reasons why Texas is a great place, but why bother.

I still never went to Texas, but from what I've already found out, I can list at least 3.

Guns, Tex-Mex cuisine and trucks

[mechman600]

It comes down to asking yourself right before you hit the "post quick reply" button:
Am I doing this to contribute or am I doing this to prove to everybody how educated I am?
Unfortunately the latter happens a lot in this forum, and unfortunately I cannot claim innocence.

[mcrews]

mechman,
some truth to what you said......but that is the nature of this particle forum that attractsd me.
The average poster IS smart. heck, the majority of the posters are smarter than the average person.
Very few 'one line posts' here.
There are some threads that I can't even follow.......
But that's appealing.

[mechman600]

Originally Posted by mcrews

mechman,
some truth to what you said......but that is the nature of this particle forum that attractsd me.
The average poster IS smart. heck, the majority of the posters are smarter than the average person.
Very few 'one line posts' here.
There are some threads that I can't even follow.......
But that's appealing.

True. Very true. Especially the bit about some threads that I can't even follow. I'll toast to that!

[justme1969]

Oh my what a strange thread this is! my 2 cents is that even people dumb as I have good contributions. just kidding I would say that for the most part the word average doesnt even apply. Average would be viewing porn or such like not ways to help a person get another 1/8th of a mile and be excited bout it.
We are techno geeks admit it! But no where near average people.
I kinda wish I was some days though!

[Slimshade73]

Love your insight into me. Maybe it is my area where huge vehicles rule. I am sure Dallas, Houston, etc. are all somewhat different. No need to adapt for me here and buy a huge truck....the streets are paved. Thanks for the advice and response (me being nice).....Shad

[Arragonis]

Blimey didn't even know this had happened