My Wife doesn't understand my passion for FE/emission, but she supports it and mildly implements it. My views have rubbed-off: like using the FE feedback device and the biggest change:
Carpooling to work.
Welcome to Site, Ms. Waxy -- and know there are many others like you out there.
Maybe a support-group is in order
Honestly, the slowed-pace of driving vs. my old "Race Everywhere" days are less of a strain on our relationship. I owe it to a lot of folks here and around the 'Net for my rehab. They are graciously thanked from Mrs. H.
Best FE to ya
RH77